I love what this person has to say. He has worked hard to become more accepting of himself, and to try to spread the message that this is what’s required to overcome any type of addiction. To me, a big part of overcoming any addiction is to accept personal responsibility for our own happiness, but I think that would be a much easier thing to do if the world we live in was more accepting of all people, regardless of size, color, or beliefs.
What Do I Do Now?
Often people reach a goal and wonder what they will do now. They have worked so hard to get to an arbitrary number and realize they may be smaller but they still aren’t happy. They still see all their flaws and none of their successes. I feel that happens because you trade one addiction (food) for another (diet and exercise) without addressing the why or how you got where you were in the first place.
You have to fight the real reasons you aren’t happy. Often this has zero to do with weight loss. Because no matter how much weight you lose you won’t be happy. You have to learn to be happy with who you are in your entirety now. Not at goal weight or anything else. Food addiction is just like any other addiction it often is a tool for we use to numb ourselves from some sort of pain in our life. Some sense of guilt or not being worthy or whatever it is.
To be truly successful at LIFE (not only weight loss) we have to strive to banish those demons. Forgive others and ourselves and let go of past pain, heart ache and guilt. No exercise routine to fix that and it is often a hard and emotional journey.
You have the power to change your life in ways you wouldn’t even dream. 2 years ago I was 350+ pounds and miserable. I have lost 100+#s and am living a life better than I ever dreamed. I didn’t win a lotto or get surgery. I started making very conscious decisions to do what made me happy, to do what made me feel good about myself. To stop defining myself by anyone else’s terms. To take power over the only thing I have control over and that is MY life. The mind is the most powerful tool we have. Unfortunately many of us have been hard wired to use it against ourselves. To make it limit us. To make us define ourselves in negative ways or worse yet to define ourselves by the reflection in someone else’s eyes.
This whole journey isn’t easy. It’s not magic. It’s hard work both internally and externally. We have to do the work on both sides of the equation. The goal of life is TO BE HAPPY. That’s it. You do that you win, hands down. Not to collect the most cars, houses, jewelry but to fill that hole inside that many of us attempted to fill with food. That hole is a lack of happiness we can’t fill it with money, fame, relationships, toys or anything else. We have to fill it with what makes us individually happy. We have to seek out and find our happiness. We have to practice doing what makes us happy. We have to take risks of falling flat on our faces sometimes to be happy. But once you are truly happy and you have changed your mindset and emotions on what really matters to you. You will be in absolute awe of what you can accomplish. Not only in weight loss but in life.
Then your mind isn’t fighting against you it is fighting for you. Then you can not only build yourself up but build up those around you. Then you aren’t afraid to try thing because you know whether it works or not you will take something positive away from it. Whatever you truly want in life you can have. It may not be in the way you thought you would get it but you can get there. I for one am living proof…